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“Rewriting the Script: You’re Not ‘Losing It’—You’re Shedding It”

For so long, we’ve been taught to believe that perimenopause and menopause mark the beginning of the end:

• The end of youth

• The end of beauty

• The end of being desired

• The end of being sharp, capable, or needed

But what if we’ve been fed the wrong story?

What if what feels like “losing it” is really… shedding it?

🕊️ You’re Not Losing Control—You’re Letting Go of Conditioning

Hot flashes? Brain fog? Emotional waves? They’re real, uncomfortable, and deeply disruptive. But they also slow us down enough to hear the truth:
We’ve been performing.

So many of us have performed for decades:

• Performed “cool girl” confidence at work

• Performed endless giving as moms and partners

• Performed okay, even when we were drowning inside

Now the mask doesn’t fit. The skin itches. The brain says rest. The soul says change.

You’re not broken. You’re breaking free.

🌙 Hormones May Change—But So Do Priorities

As estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone shift, something beautiful happens: the pressure to be everything to everyone drops.

You don’t want to go to the party? You skip it.
You’re too tired to pretend? You canceled the call.
You’re irritated for no reason? Maybe it’s a sign your tolerance for nonsense is finally zero.

Is that a loss—or a reclamation?

🔄 The Shed: What Might Be Falling Away

• Guilt over saying no

• Shame over your body changing

• Silence when something feels wrong

• Fear of being alone with your thoughts

• Old definitions of worth, beauty, and womanhood

And in its place?

• Stillness. Power. Honesty. Rest. Creativity. Depth.

💡 You’re Not Falling Apart. You’re Reassembling.

Your brain may forget names. Your body may sweat in public. You may cry at a commercial.

But the deeper intelligence inside you? She is sharp. She is rising. She is the part of you that’s been buried under decades of shoulds.

Let her breathe. Let her write her own script.

🖋️ Final Word: You’re Not Losing It. You’re Becoming.

The world may label this as a decline. But what if it’s an awakening?
What if menopause isn’t a malfunction, but a milestone?

You are not crazy. You are not invisible. You are not done.

You are simply… becoming more you than ever before.