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🔍 “Born to Solve: How My Inner Investigator Led Me to Tech (and Why Nursing Still Calls Me Sometimes)”

Some people are born dreamers.
Some are born doers.
And some—like me—are born investigators.

Since I was a child, I’ve had a deep need to know:

• Why isn’t this working?

• What’s the root cause?

• How can I fix it?

Whether it was figuring out how something broke in the house, noticing when people weren’t telling the full truth, or quietly observing until the answers revealed themselves, I’ve always chased truth and solutions.

🧠 Why I Chose Tech

When it came time to pick a career path, I followed my analytical side and stepped into Information Technology.
It felt like a natural fit—solving technical problems, finding patterns, investigating digital puzzles.

I loved the structure, the logic, and the satisfaction of resolving complex issues.
I found myself in roles where I could combine troubleshooting with tenacity, and I thrived.

But there’s another part of me too...

🩺 The Nurse That Lives in My Soul

There have been so many moments—especially now, as I dive deeper into women’s health—where I’ve thought:
Maybe I should have become a nurse.

Not because I regret my choices, but because I’ve always had a natural urge to help, heal, comfort, and research the “why” behind the pain.

Whether it’s supporting women through the mysteries of menopause, understanding nerve pain and hormone imbalances, or helping others advocate for their health, there’s a part of me that feels like I would’ve made a damn good nurse.

And maybe, in some ways, I already am.
Not by title, but by nature.

🔗 Tech Meets Heart

What I’ve learned is that it’s not either/or.

My investigative brain didn’t choose the wrong field.
It just led me to one that could grow alongside the part of me that also wants to care, connect, and empower.

Now, I use both:

• Tech knowledge to organize and build tools for women

• Health curiosity to ask hard questions and seek answers no one’s talking about

• Empathy and instinct to guide women through what I’ve learned, and what I’m still figuring out

💬 To the Woman Who Feels Split

If you’ve ever wondered, Did I take the right path?
Or what if I missed my calling?

Here’s what I’ve realized:
You didn’t miss it.
You’ve been living it all along—in your own way.

Your strengths don’t belong to one title.
Whether you fix systems, comfort a friend, teach others, or write your truth, your talents are showing up where they’re needed.

🪞 This Isn’t the End of Your Story

If perimenopause has made you reflect more lately, you’re not alone.
So many of us are revisiting who we are, what we’ve done, and who we still want to be.

It’s not too late to evolve.
You can pivot, blend, or expand the path you’re on.

Whether I’m troubleshooting code or troubleshooting the clitoris (yes, it’s real work!), I know one thing:
I was born to investigate.
To connect the dots.
To find answers when no one else is looking.

And that calling?
It never expires.

Redefining Sexy After 40: Sensuality, Vibrators & Feeling Good Again

Somewhere along the way, we were sold the idea that sexiness has an expiration date. That after 40, especially in the haze of hormonal shifts, motherhood, career burnout, and body changes, sensuality is something we’re supposed to pack away with our skinny jeans and stilettos.

Let’s be clear: that narrative is outdated—and flat-out wrong.

Redefining sexy after 40 isn’t about recapturing youth; it’s about reclaiming your body on your terms. It's not about what you look like to others—it's how you feel inside your skin. And for many of us, that starts with reimagining our relationship with pleasure, touch, and vibrational joy (yes, we’re talking vibrators).

Hormones, Libido & the Power Shift

As estrogen and progesterone take their wild rollercoaster ride, it’s common for desire to fluctuate. Your body might not respond the way it used to. You might feel disconnected from arousal or struggle with dryness or numbness in areas that once lit up like a fireworks show.

This isn’t a failure. It’s a biological shift and it deserves support, not shame.

The truth? You’re not broken. You’re evolving.

Enter the Vibrator: Not Just a Sex Toy, But a Healing Tool

Vibrators aren’t just for fun—they can be instruments of exploration, therapy, and empowerment. Women in perimenopause or menopause can:

• Help reconnect you to parts of your body that feel foreign or numb

• Encourage blood flow and sensitivity

• Work with pelvic floor therapy or pudendal nerve awareness

• Provide consistent, pressure-free pleasure

• Help you feel again—on your own terms

From the gentle pulse of a rose-shaped external vibe to the deep rumbles of a wand, there’s no one-size-fits-all. Try different types. Explore textures, speeds, and sensations without pressure or performance.

Sensuality Isn't a Performance—It’s a Birthright

Being sexy at 40+ isn’t about lingerie photoshoots (though go for it if that’s your thing!). It’s about moments that make you feel alive in your body:

• Slow dancing alone in your kitchen

• Wearing perfume just for you

• Taking time to moisturize your thighs and whisper “thank you”

• Breathing into your hips and letting go of expectations

Sensuality is presence. And it’s something we can cultivate even when libido is low or energy is scattered. In fact, it’s often in these quieter seasons that we can finally explore it on a deeper, more sacred level.

Let Pleasure Be Your North Star

Whether you’re newly single, happily partnered, or somewhere in between, your pleasure matters. You deserve to feel good, not just for someone else, but for you.

So here’s your permission slip to…

• Experiment

• Be curious

• Say yes (or no) without guilt

• Play with vibrators

• Honor your body exactly as she is today

You’re not past your prime. You’re just getting started. 💋